What are some commonly used pronouns?

She/her/hers and he/him/his are a few commonly used pronouns. Some people call these “feminine” and “masculine” pronouns, but many people avoid these labels because not everyone who uses he feels “masculine.”

There are also lots of other pronouns in use, some of them more gender neutral. Here are a few you might hear:

  • They/them/theirs (Shea ate their food because they were hungry.) This is a pretty common gender-neutral pronoun and it can be used in the singular. In fact, “they” was voted as the Word of the Year in 2015.
  • Ze/hir/hir (Tyler ate hir food because ze was hungry.) Ze is pronounced like “zee” can also be spelled zie or xe, and replaces she/he/they. Hir is pronounced like “here” and replaces her/hers/him/his/they/theirs.
  • Just my name please! (Ash ate Ash’s food because Ash was hungry) Some people prefer not to use pronouns at all, using their name as a pronoun instead.

Do not refer to a person as “it” or “he-she”. These are offensive slurs used against trans and gender non-conforming individuals. Purposefully misgendering (using the wrong pronouns or ignoring the pronouns in use) is also offensive and disrespectful to trans and gender non-confirming individuals.