Halloween is supposed to be fun. Through costumes, people can let their creativity take the center stage, and wear something that makes them feel empowered. However, some may see Halloween as an excuse to engage in unwanted behavior or make derogatory comments. Whether you celebrate Halloween by going out with friends, handing out candy, or partake in other activities, being mindful ensures everyone has a fun and safe holiday.
Clothes DO NOT Imply Consent
Revealing outfits are not an open invitation for comments, unwanted attention, or other behaviors that may make someone uncomfortable. Just because someone wears something that could be considered “revealing” does not give anyone the right to touch or make sexual comments. Consent always applies, regardless of what someone is or is not wearing. What people choose to wear is expression, not an open invitation.
What is Consent?
Consent is a mutual agreement. If you want to engage in any activity, you need to ask and discuss it first. Consent is not awkward or complicated – in fact, it’s the opposite. When someone consents to an activity, they are okay with it.
If you are unsure if consent was given, remember, consent is F.R.I.E.S!
- Freely given – Pressuring, tricking, or coercing someone into saying yes is never okay. Consent cannot be given if someone is under the influence of substances, asleep, unresponsive, or in any other vulnerable state where they may not understand what is going on around them.
- Reversible – Anyone can change their mind at any time. Consent is not a one-time agreement and can be revoked at any time.
- Informed – All parties must be aware of what they consent to. If the situation or activity changes, consent must be obtained again.
- Enthusiastic – Consent is the presence of a clear “yes,” not the absence of a “no.” Someone should be excited to give consent. If someone is not sure, take it as a “no” and respect their decision.
- Specific – Consent is specific to every situation. It cannot be assumed.
Carve Out a Safety Plan
Halloween parties and events can involve large groups of people, dark settings, and substances – all of which can impact consent and how it is given. Look out for friends, check in with others, and step in and help someone in an uncomfortable situation if it is safe to do so. Consider establishing a buddy system or creating a plan for how to leave an event. There is nothing fun about putting yourself in harm’s way.
Halloween is about creativity and fun. By practicing consent, and being mindful of yourself and others, we can make the night safer and more fun for everyone. A respectful celebration allows everyone to freely express themselves without fear of judgment, harassment, or harm.
Consent is important every day. Let’s creep it real this Halloween, and make sure everyone feels safe, respected, and can celebrate freely!
Terryn (any pronouns)